(03)-The Law of Will-

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NADEUM ANNUAL COACHING – SOCIAL SKILLS – – THE ‘12 LAWS OF SUCCESS’

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Once you have completed your exercise today, enter your findings in the corresponding field. If you still lack experience, simply practice this development step for another day. At the end of the diary: Look forward to your next learning session.

We wish you lots of fun and interesting insights.

Andreas Andiel has summarised the world’s most recognised know-how from the most proven success instructions for personal satisfaction and professional success in the context of the ‘12 natural laws for success’. And it is precisely this elite know-how that forms the basis for every online course in the areas of communication, self-motivation and motivation of others, as well as mental strength.

A few more important details…

Every evening, as the last action of the day, you fill out your personal diary and record your experiences of the day.

Important: This step of writing is very important for sustainable development. The following content is based on previous experiences! Only by registering your experiences in the training area can you make your progress tangible for yourself.

You can repeat the previous content and also read again and again what you have written down.

At regular intervals (every 7 units), you will take a short interim test with your coach. This helps you to consolidate your learning progress, discuss what you have learned with your coach and thus consolidate your knowledge.

At times, you may think that an exercise has little to do with your profession or your personality. The course is structured didactically. Please do not skip any knowledge or exercises – trust that each step is important.

For example: Professional athletes always start with a warm-up, constantly work on their fitness, strengthen their technique, and then move on to the game structure and a decisive competition. In professional sports, there is no ‘I already know that’ or ‘I don’t need that’

So complete each session before moving on to the next. Stay in the same session for two or three days if necessary. Train at your own pace.

YOUR NADEUM YEAR COACHING – SOCIAL SKILLS

The ‘12 LAWS OF SUCCESS’ at a glance

(This is your first task. Read it carefully. If you have any questions, please contact your coach at the WhatsApp number: +43 660 7621873) [You will see all laws again and again in all steps. When the text is blue, you are in the current exercise].

No. 01 – The Law of Responsibility –

Taking responsibility means taking advantage of a great opportunity. And without taking responsibility in society, there will be no successful engagement in society. By consciously taking responsibility for my own thinking, I recognise the creative possibilities in my own area and gain personal freedom.

No. 02 – The Law of Learning –

Learning from ‘mistakes’ means improving the path until it leads to the achievement of a goal. Get out of the ‘mistake game’! The main topics in this unit are solution-oriented, constructive thinking and action, positive interaction with one’s own environment and the acceptance of all feedback as an indicator for optimising one’s own path.

No. 03 – The Law of Will –

The difference between dreams, desires and intentions. How to develop a determined willpower. Recognising your own goals, developing a goal plan, determining the necessary effort and learning to develop a strong will for activities for yourself (and others) that will enable you to achieve your goal in the first place.

! Please scroll down to the term ‘What are my goals’!

No. 04 – The Law of Action –

Knowing when to act, what to do, and how to do it is the basis of every project. After completing the planning and decision-making, it is now a matter of moving from talking to action and focusing all energies on the start-up phase.

No. 05 – The Law of Trust –

It is important to trust in yourself. However, it is just as important that society/the environment builds trust in us! One of the most important prerequisites for this is reliability, which in turn is based on personal responsibility and time/self-management.

No. 06 – The law of reality –

It is not always necessary to see everything the way everyone else sees it. However, it is crucial to know how others focus on learning to deal with it and to achieve a more understanding approach to your environment. Empathy, understanding and tolerance are key skills for living together in harmony.

No. 07 – The law of adaptation –

Everyone is on their own at first. The closer you are to someone else, the closer you are to them. And the more you get. Conscious adaptation or non-adaptation must be used in combination with a responsible approach to one’s own environment. By consciously deciding to adapt or not to adapt, the individual gains personal freedom and strength.

No. 08 – The Law of Leadership –

The basics of ‘alpha leadership’ and how to use them correctly. The right balance between ‘leading’ and ‘letting lead’. In this unit, it is also important to learn how to consciously use the instrument of ‘letting lead’ and thus create valuable conditions for teamwork and/or team leadership.

No. 09 – The Law of Balance –

Recognising a balance between ‘giving’ and ‘taking’. The balance of body, mind and soul must be established in order to achieve the same performance. It is also important to consider compensation to third parties. ‘If you want to reap, you must first sow’. Those who are aware that they will always have to pay for the desired person in the form of services, resources, etc. will achieve their goals more easily and be appreciated by their fellow human beings for their efforts.

No. 10 – Law of Growth –

Everything grows through the alternation of push and pause. Those who handle it correctly get the most out of it. Continuous action leads to growth and success. This unit conveys the positive aspects of consistent action, the basic requirements for success in every activity (private or professional).

No. 11 – Law of Defence –

Knowing when, what and how to successfully defend yourself gives you the gentle calm of self-confidence. Develop a ‘we’ thinking in a conflict situation and find solutions together that everyone can support. This unit also provides basic skills for harmonious interaction with your professional, family and social environment.

No. 12 – The Law of Usefulness –

When we give others what they want, they give us everything, according to the value we create for them. Increasing the value means getting more. Knowing one’s own value leads to a strong personality that is able to act calmly and sensibly in all situations and to shape one’s own life.

What are my Goals

THE LAW OF THE WILL

There is often a big gap between desire and reality.
Theoretically, most people already know roughly where they want to go, but practically they are stagnating all their lives. The problem is that many people don’t know exactly what they want.
You will find the instructions for fulfilling your wishes in the following units.
Why don’t you do the self-test on the subject of will right now in the next module?

Self-test WILL

Do you know what you want?

We could achieve anything in life – at least theoretically. In practice, on the path to great change, we usually put even the biggest obstacles in our way. Is that also the case with you? Find out!

1. A rainy Sunday … what do you do with it?

Reading a book and lying on the couch. (A)

Making the tax return and removing the dust. (C)

I don’t know what to do with myself. (B)

Let’s get out… into nature, to the movies, to meet friends. (D)

2. What do you associate with the word “change”?

Life is a constant change to which you have to adapt. (C)

It’s hard for me to change things on my own. (A)

Change brings uncertainty. (B)

Excitement, adventure, risk. (D)

3. Which of these three sentences do you hear more often?

“Only you really understand me.” (A)

“You can be relied on.” (C)

“You’re doing so much for me.” (B)

“You always take my mind off things.” (D)

4. Imagine you are in a maze and shall find your way out. What feelings do you associate with it?

I am afraid to get lost. (A)

I think it’s exciting. (C)

It’s exhausting. You have to decide all the time. (D)

There is strength in tranquillity – and in this case orientation. (B)

5. Do you (in retrospect) feel that you have often made the wrong decisions?

No, the wrong decisions were not that important after all. (C)

Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if… (B)

I am who I am, and I can’t get out of my skin. (A)

There are no wrong decisions, only course corrections on the right track. (D)

6. What does happiness mean to you?

To be happy is an uncanny effort. (C)

I had and had many happy moments. (A)

Often you only have to look closely to see happiness. (B)

To put a smile on the face of my counterpart. (D)

7. Which of the following statements applies to you?

I rely on the proven in my life. (A)

I can get so absorbed in something; I don’t even know where I am anymore. (C)

It’s hard for me to keep things more in perspective. (B)

I’m always looking for new challenges. (D)

8. After initial euphoria I am often slowed down by my fellow people.

Yes, that often happens to me. (C)

No, that rarely happens to me. (A)

Yes, I know that, but I always hope that things will get better next time (B)

I’m not going to let anyone slow me down. (D)

Write down all characters on a separate sheet of paper, count all the same letters together, write them down and you will get your evaluation in the next window.

EVALUATION

THE LAW OF THE WILL

Add up the letter values!

A = _____ times

B = _____ times

C = _____ times

D = _____ times

Read the interpretations with your highest letter value to find out where you stand.

A: STAY IN BALANCE

Your life is balanced and relaxed in many ways. Your friends appreciate your empathy – and yet you are just as committed to yourself and your needs. You have the necessary self-confidence to express your wishes and are not afraid of changes, because you know where you want to go in every situation. All this sounds perfect if there were not a slight tendency towards impulsiveness.

B: FOLLOW THE INTUITION

Actually, you know exactly what you want and wish for, because your gut feeling is incorrigible. However, you often lack the courage to follow your intuition. You often don’t trust yourself and too often put your own needs behind external demands. So you quickly lose sight of your very own goals.

C: GO AHEAD PURPOSEFULLY

Discipline and self-control are your strengths. They make you a reliable partner. Unfortunately, they often make you immune to your own dreams and desires and manoeuvre you in situations in which you don’t really want to be. And instead of making a U-turn, you act on top of everything according to the principle “close your eyes and go for it”.

D: CONSTANTLY AT FULL BLAST

You don’t really know what you want … You try to do justice to everything and everyone and even to yourself. People take you for a dazzling personality, but you don’t seem really reliable. You are a role model when it comes to fantasy and energy – but in the long run this is exhausting and ineffective.

Look forward to your next recognition …

Recognition Unit 31:

I once coached a company; the entrepreneur was not very successful. We sat together and analysed a number of difficulties and challenges.

Then he suddenly said to me: “You know, if my father hadn’t wanted me to take over the company so badly, I wouldn’t have done it all to myself”.

It was then clear to me where the root of the evil was.

What you need in the first place to take responsibility and to learn is a will. And this will must be your will, your free will!

There is no point in doing what the others want. Only if you want something yourself, you can reach your goal. Otherwise, you can forget your objective from the outset.

Imagine I am a good fairy godmother…

… we meet in the forest and because you are so sympathetic and nice, I say you have three wishes free. They should be quite concrete, and you have 10 seconds.

Let’s go!

Now write them on a sheet of paper.

1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.

Stop!

Three things written down.

Most people wouldn’t even know what to say to the fairy in such a case. But she is gone after 10 seconds, so you can’t say: “Wait a minute, I’ll have to think about it first”.

And if now someone has written happiness, contentment and prosperity, then you can cross that out again. Because if you say “prosperity” to the fairy, then she says: “Yes great, I have ten euros with me. That’s enough for food and drinks.” If you say “satisfaction” to the fairy, then she says:

“Well, there I need not to do anything, it is already so beautiful in the forest and in nature.”

In both cases you probably would have imagined something different.

So that your wishes can be fulfilled, you must already identify them so specifically that there can be no mistake. So concrete that the fairy knows exactly what she has to do.

Could you write down three very concrete things? Very few people can do this. Well, if we do not even know what we want, how can we know how to get there?

Developing a will is the basic prerequisite for everything else.

If I don’t develop a will, if I don’t have a firm will, I won’t achieve what I have in mind. Otherwise, it’s always just dreams. We do a lot of dreaming. But I also have something to do for their realization. And for that I have to know what I want. And in a very concrete way.

Otherwise, you feel the same way as the man in the following story who prayed every evening…

“Dear God, let me have a six in the lottery,” and every Sunday and Wednesday he complains in the evening because it didn’t work out again. And at some point, as he says again in the evening: “Dear God, let me hit the lottery jackpot”, the sky darkens, it thunders, and you can hear a voice from above:

“At least give me a chance and fill out a lottery ticket once!”

If I don’t know exactly what I want, then I can’t know how to get there.

Exercise 31:

Please take 5 minutes for this exercise.

Go into a locked room (e.g. your office) and close the doors and windows. Now please stand in the middle of the room and start walking around for five minutes.

• Don’t just walk in circles but try to get into all sorts of corners.

• But don’t stand still under any circumstances!

• Keep moving for the whole five minutes and please move as fast as possible.

Then please note what you felt and thought during the five minutes and what you feel and think now.

Recognition Unit 32:

Here are a few examples of typical situations that occur when the topic of will is not considered…

Do any of these situations look familiar to you?

• We motivate an employee for a certain project.

A very good conversation takes place, which ends with us telling our employee: “So we would have to achieve that and the turnover, or what do you say?”

And now I ask you: What else remains for the poor guy to say but “yes”?

“Very good, we knew you had good goals.” And then we enter the goal with him. And after the end of the project period, we are very much annoyed, because this employee “has not reached his goal” again.

• We tell an employee how the office processes will have to run in the future.

We tell the employee how communication should run in the office, how the organization should run, how to behave on the phone in the future, etc … …and nothing changes at all.

• You talk to your children to make them understand how important homework is.

Your children promise you to do them properly in the future… … and fourteen days later you receive another message from the teacher: “No homework done”.

• You take on something and start working on it.

But the longer the project lasts, the more you lose interest in it. You would never have thought that this was so much work. And the quality of the work gets worse and worse…

…until you’re frustrated and just see that you get this project done somehow. Or even give it away.

• You think yourself sometime…

“Now I have to step on the gas. Now something has to happen in my career, with my personality, with my finances.”

That’s why you start a part-time job, take on a second part-time job to be on the safe side, sign up for personality training and sign up for some voluntary special projects in your company. Great, isn’t it? Nothing can go wrong anymore, can’t it?

After a while, however, you realize in frustration that almost nothing works at all from what you’re tackling. And you think that you weren’t born for success.

• Someone decides to carry out a project and full of anticipation he talks about it to everyone he meets.

He already paints his future success in the most beautiful pictures and enjoys the appreciative approval he receives for his announcements. But after some time, all the joy in the project is blown away and he lets it end quietly and secretly.

Was probably not so great, right?

Exercise 32:

1. Please take a look at what you wrote down after exercise 31.

Does it contain feelings and thoughts like “wasting time, bullshit, senseless, wasting energy, aimless wandering around, etc.”?

If so, then very well. Because then you know how it will be for a person who has no goals, his whole life long.

Observe whether there are situations in your everyday life today, in which it is similar to you in the exercise.

2. Note at the end of the day, which goals have been given to you in your life so far or by other people and write down the person who has given you this goal.

Which goals were given to you by…

• dad

• mom

• sib

• instructor

• friends

• life partners

• children

• superiors

• associates

• neighbors

etc.

Which of the goals have you achieved and which not?

Mark them with no = not reached and r = reached.

Recognition Unit 33:

What does not work in these life situations? None of the participants will be really satisfied with the results of recognition 32. But why does it work for most people?

Let’s take a look at a few reasons for this:

• We motivate an employee for a certain project.

A very good conversation takes place…

Here the objective was clearly not the employee’s own will. If he does not stand behind the goal himself, how can he implement it with all his strength?

• We tell an employee how the office processes will run in the future.

We tell the employee how the communication in the office should run, how the organisation executes…

These are also commands and instructions. The employee does not understand the meaning behind them and therefore cannot stand by the agreement. Yes, often it even goes so far that he is not even aware that he is doing something wrong.

• You talk to your children to make them understand how important homework is.

Your children promise to do it properly in the future. And…

Clearly, these conversations “fruit” very little to not at all. The child will always agree only to satisfy you. The child cannot really understand the meaning of the homework in this way.

• You take on something and really start to work on it.

But the longer the project lasts, the more you lose interest in it. You never thought it would be so much work. And…

In this example, it was initially forgotten to take the effort into account. But if it is not clear to me from the beginning what effort I have to make and I am not willing to make it – it will not work.

• You think yourself sometime…

“Now I have to step on the gas. Now something has to happen in my career, with my personality, with my finances.” …

Everyone only has a certain “power potential”. If he divides it up, he also splits the results.

• Someone decides to carry out a project and, full of anticipation, he talks about it to everyone he meets.

He already paints his future success in the most beautiful pictures and enjoys the appreciative approval he receives for his announcements. But…

The most beautiful joy is the anticipation. If one robs oneself of this by wanting to collect the laurels in advance, one loses the joy of the project. And if you then give up out of frustration (which is usually the case), there is only a feeling of shame towards all those to whom you have already announced success.

You see, to develop a powerful will that is strong enough to really drive us forward, you need several ingredients. These are all to be considered and trained.

But once the will is there – every way is open.

Exercise 33:

1. Copy your marked targets from exercise 32. And then you ask yourself:

• Which of the foreign goals did you not achieve?

• Why?

2. List YOUR goals and determine the effort required.

• specific

• measurable

• action-oriented

• realistic

• terminated

Recognition Unit 34:

In every phase of personality and success development it is extremely important to set oneself goals and work consistently towards these goals.

The word “self” in this sentence is a very important one. Never let circumstances or other people give you goals but set your own goals. This is the only way to create the necessary identification, which can produce a strong enough will to actually achieve the goal.

All objectives will and must change in the course of development and in the course of life. Because logically new circumstances arise in the course of the development again and again and from these new circumstances new objectives arise constantly.

To achieve the goals set, however, it is not enough to recognize, see and dream about the goal. Think how many people you know who constantly dream of their goals but never achieve them.

Decisive is the will to go the way to this goal.

One must focus one’s actions on this goal and be prepared to subordinate other wishes and ideas to this goal. It is also the decision to reach a certain goal, to examine it more closely.

Because it is theoretically possible to reach every goal, but on the one hand there must be clarity about the necessary effort and on the other hand the necessary performance must be provided.

It must therefore be checked whether the necessary knowledge and means are available to achieve this goal:

• Do you have the necessary knowledge alone or can someone else impart it to you?

• Do you have the necessary financial, instrumental and human resources available for the required period of time?

• Can the project be implemented in the given social environment?

• Are you really in a position to achieve the desired goal out of your personal situation – out of your constitution?

If you answer one of these questions with “No”, the next round of questions will begin…

The procurement of the “missing elements”

• Where can you get the missing knowledge from?

• How do you obtain the financial, instrumental and personnel resources?

• How can you change your social environment?

• How can you adapt your personal situation, your constitution to the need to achieve these goals?

And the decisive factor in all these questions is that you are always ready to put in the necessary effort and performance to create the necessary elements to achieve the goal.

Because only a conscious decision for the contribution of a certain commitment can be the basis for the absolute will reaching your goal.

The greater the goal, the greater the effort. Therefore, the will to achieve this goal must also be greater.

And exactly here lies the difference between desire and will.

Exercise 34:

Now copy your goals from exercise 33 into the diary field and divide your goals into:

• short-term (3 months)

• medium-term (1 year)

• long-term (3 years)

• private

• sanitary

• occupational

• financial

Recognition Unit 35:

Desire indicates what one would like to have without being willing to do anything about it.

And how many people do you know who long for something and who, instead of doing something, are constantly complaining?

The will, however, declares the willingness to make the necessary effort.

Therefore, you should always be clear about the goal you want to achieve on the one hand, but on the other hand you should always know about the effort you have to make. And you should know for yourself and consider whether it is worth it for you also to produce the necessary effort for the achievement of the goal.

To take an example from nature…

A lion, for example, abandons hunting a particular prey animal as soon as it recognizes that the prey requires an excessively high amount of energy and time. The lion wants to gain energy in the form of a captured animal. The energy gain must be significantly higher than the required energy expenditure. He will therefore look for a more profitable prey.

In our practice…

It can be for example that someone sets himself the goal to be the most successful representative of his company. One of the things that is necessary for this is that he has to travel a lot and is almost not at home. He is willing to make this effort because he has no family and is otherwise unattached. After some time, however, he meets a woman and enters into a life partnership with her. Now the effort to never be at home is too much for him, which he is not willing to do anymore.

A new goal is set accordingly.

If you do not only have one wish, but you have worked out a concrete goal, it will often be necessary to replan or to plan again. This will be based on experience and knowledge gained or on changes caused by external circumstances. Or it becomes necessary to adapt the way to the desired goal due to your own further development.

Or simply to accept the realization that a goal is not attainable because you are not willing to make the necessary effort.

But this is the strength of the will that lets you reach every goal.

That you not only know what you want, but that you also always know what you have to do for it and that you are always aware of whether you are willing to perform for it or not. If you are clear about your goal and know the effort needed to achieve it, and if you are willing to do it, then it is absolutely necessary to achieve the right focus. This is in order to give the will the necessary enforcement power.

Exercise 35:

1. Pick up an extra sheet of paper and write down a relatively small and easy goal on it. The goal can gladly be from the list in exercise 34.

2. Then please do the following…

Take the sheet in your hand and then crumple it up properly. Don’t fold it up beautifully – really fold it up!

This is now your “ball of will”.

Put it in your trouser pocket or keep it in another place on your body where you feel it all day long. And you now carry it with you until you have reached your goal.

And you will notice one thing: That scrubs with every step. You will constantly feel which goal you have set yourself. And then each time you contribute something to reach this goal.

Intermediate test 5:

Automatic processes promote learning and development.

Every change is an enrichment.

It gets me to my goal when I do what others want.

If you don’t have a sense of basic trust, you can’t have self-confidence.

Willpower is shown by the willingness to make the necessary effort.

Recognition Unit 36:

Have you ever observed in Formula 1 how quickly and precisely tyres are changed during a pit stop?

In 4 to 6 seconds. Changing four tyres in 4 to 6 seconds is an unimaginable performance for a layman.

This result can only be achieved by focusing accordingly.

For days and nights, the highly paid mechanics in Formula 1 do nothing other than constantly and repeatedly place the right tool at exactly the right point at the right time. And it is only through such concentration that such a performance is possible.

The same applies to the achievement of your goal.

If you now have the will to reach a certain goal and are ready to put in the necessary effort, then concentrate your entire activity, your entire thinking on the achievement of this goal and the achievement of the necessary effort. The necessary focusing will be the more intensively necessary, the bigger the goal is and the more effort you need to achieve it.

In order to become the best runner of your running club, a different focus will be necessary than if your goal were to be “world champion in 100-meter running”.

You have probably already noticed: This concentration on your goal – depending on the size of the goal – up to the continuous alignment of all your thoughts and actions on this goal, is the greatest effort you must be prepared to make. Otherwise, your will will never have the strength you need to turn your desires and dreams into achievable goals.

The will is now also strengthened by a third factor: the inner tension.

This means that you are building a sense of joyful anticipation of your achievement. And this in turn you do through these two things…

• Continuous visualization

• Silence

Constant visualization simply means that whenever you can, you can see the picture of what your personal situation looks like when you have reached your goal.

• Where are you then?

• How do you feel?

• What do you see?

• What do you hear?

And you do this visualization as often as possible: in the morning after waking up, in the evening before going to bed – and during the day always in between when you have time.

Your subconscious gets used to this goal and the necessary focusing will become easier and easier for you.

Silence means that you don’t talk to anyone about your goal who doesn’t have to be informed about the goal because he doesn’t participate in the implementation.

Many people make the mistake that they announce their goals and thereby:

• Harvest scepticism and be weakened in their will

• receive advance praise and thus weaken the inner tension, because their subconscious tells them that it is no longer necessary to make an effort, because they have already received recognition by the announcement alone

• Putting themselves under pressure by fearing that they will not be able to make their announcements come true and that the joy in the activity will be lost.

Keep your goals to yourself. Instead, build a silent anticipation within yourself by visualizing how your environment reacts when you reach your goal.

Exercise 36:

Let’s practice focusing for once!

Please list all your goals and do not look at your list from the previous exercises.

Recognition Unit 37:

How can you apply the rules and elements on the subject of will in private life now?

Here are a few examples:

• If you want to enter into a relationship with a person, be aware in advance that every partnership also requires a certain amount of effort.

An effort, which one should find out before establishing a firm partnership and which one should also be prepared to perform. If you can’t or don’t want to make the expected effort – then you should spare yourself and the other person, the promises and deceptive hopes at the beginning of the relationship.

Because then is simply not the right time.

• You talk to your child to make it clear how important homework is or would like to take other educational measures.

Instead of ordering, work out with the child now all those things that it likes, if it adheres to the agreed rules of the game. Don’t be satisfied with empty phrases but demand honest reasons (e.g. being cool in front of friends, appreciation from teachers, praise from parents). Then let the child define itself or set the goal, how often he or she wants to experience these things.

You accompany this process with a “playful competition”, in which you give extra appreciation for reaching the goals.

I admit that this point is the most difficult because children have other ways of thinking. However, you will definitely achieve an improvement.

• If you ever think to yourself “Now I have to step on the gas. Now something has to happen in my career, with my personality, with my finances”, then just pick out only one point.

Concentrate on that one point. And only when you have completed this point, only when you have reached your goal in this matter – then choose the next point. You will find that your development is much faster and easier this way.

Now let’s assume that you have picked a point (e.g. losing weight, a further training course, start jogging, saving on a new car) and start all over again.

Then don’t tell anyone about it – as long as you haven’t reached your goal. Don’t announce anything (e.g. will lose weight now, will enrol for a course, will start jogging, will buy a new car next year), but just do it.

When you’ve reached your goal – or while you’re just doing it – everyone will notice it anyway.

And then you’ll get the recognition all by yourself. You don’t need to “demand” for appreciation beforehand. You don’t need that at all. Just do what you have set out to do and you will notice over time that the people around you see you as a person of action. In contrast to the many “announcers” and “chatterboxes” that run around in large numbers.

At the same time, you will feel a much stronger anticipation of the achievement of your goals, which will also strengthen your will.

And you will have more fun reaping the benefits when you have reached your goal.

Exercise 37:

1. Now copy the list from the previous exercise 36 and copy it into today’s exercise field.

2. Please delete all targets from the list, starting with the one that is least important for you.

• You do this until only one goal – the most important one for you – remains.

Please do not go the other way around and select the most important goal right away but stick to the order of starting with the least important one and deleting one after the other.

Recognition Unit 38:

And how do you now apply the rules and elements on the subject of will in professional life?

Here are a few examples:

• Again, and again there are situations that require the assistance of a colleague.

In such cases, help is usually requested. If the colleague is in a good mood, can identify with the objective, finds you sympathetic – and above all is not afraid that he has a disadvantage through the assistance – he will also support you. Very often one of the mentioned prerequisites is missing, so that it mostly remains with the “verbal support”. And when it comes down to it, there is nothing to see from the colleague.

The next time you need support, first try to ask your colleague how he thinks about the envisioned goal. Get his undivided agreement on this and above all:

Let your colleague see clearly and unequivocally what his advantages would be if you could achieve the goal together.

Because only if there are enough advantages for your colleague – and only then – will he see the result you want as his personal goal. And for his or her very personal goal, he or she will also show the appropriate will and commitment.

In this way you can – if you proceed skilfully – build up a “power base” for yourself. And you will always have the necessary support to achieve your goals. And you need this – because alone you will achieve little in the long run.

• You want to motivate an employee for a certain project or behaviour.

First of all, it is necessary that you find together with him a goal which he can represent, and which brings him personal profit (to be the company with the friendliest telephone reception, for which he has the responsibility, which brings him e.g. appropriate recognition and positive performance evaluation).

Then you let him work out the guidelines for the right behaviour and commit to these guidelines – because your own goals and guidelines are easier to adhere to.

You lead discreetly.

• If you start a project in the company, just do it and don’t talk about it much in advance (if it is within your competence – otherwise only talk to the person who gives you the approval).

Only if you can show positive results, tell (in a suitable place) about your successful work. Believe me – everyone else will know soon enough. Make sure, however, that you can always document that it was you who started and carried out this project (otherwise there is a danger that someone will be tempted taking credit for others’ achievements).

With this approach, you have more variation possibilities in the course of the project than if you had already announced every detail. You collect your anticipation of the laurels on successful completion of the project and are recognized within the company as a “man of action” who acts instead of just talking like so many others. Which will certainly have a positive influence on your career.

What is most important: You will notice that under these conditions you have a much stronger will and thus more strength for the implementation of the project.

Exercise 38:

Create a GOAL COLLAGE and visualize your goals with it.

• Take your list from exercise 34 and transfer these goals as well.

• Cut out images from newspapers or magazines that represent your goals.

• Glue in photos or make your own drawings.

Subsequently, you should make goal collages on several pages or preferably in your own booklet.

Recognition Unit 39:

Let us look again at the subject of will in its main points:

• Own objectives

This is the basis for being able to develop a will at all. In order to summon up the necessary strength for the entire duration of the project and to be able to activate it constantly when needed. Always keep in mind that the emphasis is on your own goals. Only if you have chosen your goal yourself, the enthusiasm can develop, which releases the necessary power in you.

•Determine effort

After you know where you want to go, check conscientiously what effort is needed. Not to take this point too seriously and to say to yourself, “It won’t be so bad,” would be to lie to yourself at the worst. Estimate the expenditure to be produced rather larger than smaller. If you have to put in more effort than originally planned during the course of the project, it may be that you quickly lose the joy. And that would be the beginning of the end. It is much better if it turns out to be much simpler and easier than originally assumed. Your energy will clearly increase, and your willpower will exponentiate.

• Determine whether you want to and can make the necessary effort

It is one thing to know what work, financial, time and other commitment awaits you. But to be able to make this effort, too, is the other perspective. And all the more you should check yourself carefully whether you are really prepared to actually perform the determined effort – and if necessary, a little more. Don’t just pay attention to what you have to do additionally, don’t forget what you have to do without for the duration of the project. One of the differences between dreamers and winners is the sincere willingness to put in the effort.

• Focusing

Every human being has only a certain volume of power. He can split it up (into countless dreams) or use as much as possible for a certain goal. It is important to observe very simple rules of physics. Do not get bogged down. Concentrate your strength and use it sensibly.

• Inner tension through visualization and silence

In order to win our subconscious for our support, it is necessary to supply them with specific images. Imagine your future success continuously. Strengthen your will further, by not taking credit in advance on all possible occasions but keeping silent and collecting your anticipation. Enjoy the moment of success all the more.

Consequence:

I always have a goal in sight, for which I have consciously decided and the achievement of which requires an effort known to me, which I am prepared to make.

I focus my thoughts and actions on this goal and only tell those people about this goal who are directly involved in achieving it. Every day I visualize the achievement of my goal and look forward to its success

Exercise 39:

Formulate your goals precisely.

Use your mobile phone and record your goals. Be sure to formulate your goals in the present.

Start the formulation with the words “in a perfect way”.

Example: “In a perfect way I am successful in everything I say, do or think”.

Play the recording at least over a period of 2 weeks daily and as often as you can.

It is helpful if you link the play of the recording to a routine, such as

• before retrieving the current day unit,

• after getting up,

• on the way to work,

• during the lunch hour,

• before closing time,

• pre-dinner

Recognition Unit 40:

What the subject of will means for our body…

In order to understand this, we should first accept that our body is an independent organism that has its own “will”. Our body develops a desire or an aversion to certain things over time. And that is his “will”.

If you think about it, you will surely come up with of a number of foods and drinks that you like. But that’s probably how you can call food that you can’t stand. One likes your body, the other doesn’t. It is the will of your body.

If you are used to sleeping long and then have to get out of bed very early, you will feel tired all day long. The same is true if you fall below a certain minimum duration of sleep. Even then you will not feel well all day long. Your body simply wants “more sleep” in these cases. It is his will.

Someone who smokes doesn’t usually do it because he thinks it’s particularly healthy or otherwise good for him. In most cases, people know that smoking is harmful to their health. But they continue to smoke – contrary to their better knowledge. The reason for this is quite simply that the body wants to smoke.

Do you know anybody who has ever decided to exercise regularly because he understood that it would be healthier for him, he would look better, and he would feel more comfortable – and after a few attempts he would quickly let it go again? Why did this person give up sports immediately? Quite simply: it was not the will of his body. His body didn’t want to maltreat itself, his body wanted rest.

The same procedure is the order of the day when it comes to losing weight. The decision has been made, there is a period of starvation – and soon the scales will show exactly the same as before. Why? Because losing weight was not the will of the body. And against his will it simply doesn’t work.

There would still be many examples that our body has its own will.

And if you should find it difficult to accept this, please think of the proverb: “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak”.

It is indeed the case that we have a spiritual will and a physical will. And both are equally important.

If we want to change and achieve something physically, we have to deal with the will of our body, respond to it and consciously develop it. Otherwise you will always work against your body, torture yourself and never be in harmony with it.

To be one with your body, however, is the basis for health, charisma, strength, satisfaction and success.

Exercise 40:

Work with your audio recording of the previous exercise 39 and add physical goals to the objectives.

Play the recording as often as you can and at fixed times (see Exercise 39).

Continued success with the implementation!

Recognition Unit 41:

Let us have a look at some of the above-mentioned examples from daily life and how attempts at development usually work, if we do not consider that the body has its own will.

• You decide one day to eat healthier from now on.

Certain foods and drinks, which you like, but which are clearly unhealthy or bad for your figure, you drop from now on. You make up a list, pay attention exactly to what you buy, control yourself when ordering in the restaurant and force yourself to live healthier and more figure-consciously. For a while you also stick to it…

…but in the end, your body enforces its will. Because it doesn’t take long, then you eat and drink again what tastes to you (your body) and you don’t care about healthy and figure-conscious nutrition.

• Someone has told you that the adult and healthy person usually gets by with six hours of sleep (in fact it is so).

So, you say to yourself: “Then everything is clear. From now on I will sleep only six hours. To sleep more would be wasted time.” You now set your alarm clock daily in such a way that it wakes you up after six hours of sleep – and you feel miserable. All day long you are tired, exhausted and in a bad mood…

… after a few days you already don’t care about the “loss of time” and sleep as long as your body wants you to.

• Someone who smokes reads again one day how harmful smoking is to health.

Stimulated by this, he starts to recalculate how much money smoking costs him. Then he decides that it’s madness to spend so much money to live shorter and worse and decides to quit smoking immediately….

… for a while he’ll be fine too – until one day he can’t stand it any longer and still picks up his cigarette again. Statistics show that about 85% of all people do not manage to quit smoking. The reason for this is quite simple: your body wants to smoke. And he doesn’t care much what you want.

• You know that it would be good for your health, your figure, your well-being if you did sports 2-3 times a week.

So, you just start with it. Full of motivation. How long? Suddenly days appear where you are too tired, don’t have time, it is bad weather, you have too much work, …

… and the good intentions are gone again. The mentioned reasons are only excuses – your body just doesn’t want to do any sports. Your body wants it to be calm and comfortable. And your body has enforced its will.

The secret is: to accept that we have “two wills”.

A mental will and a physical will. And if these work against each other, if we believe that it is enough that the mental will “commands” – then we will make in most cases the experience of the old proverb:

“The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

To “force” the body to something purely spiritually is the common but not very successful method. In most cases it brings only agony and disappointment – but little success.

Exercise 41:

Ask people in your environment today whether they have already set themselves physical goals, started to implement them – and what happened to it.

What do you conclude from this for your own physical goals?

Recognition Unit 42:

How can we apply the topic of will in such a way that it has a positive effect on our body?

In order to develop physically positively in the long term, it is necessary to recognize the physical will and to train it in the same way as we train the mental will. We can train the will of our body by consciously strengthening it and leading it to the goal of our spiritual will.

The recipe is to slowly lead the body to its new will. And we should be aware that it always remains the will of our body. We only lead it.

We can assume that there is a certain survival instinct that makes it halfway easy for us to have a body will that keeps our body in order so far that we survive. However, anything above the “subsistence minimum” depends on how I can train the will of my body.

Now, how do we train and develop the will of our body?

How do I help my body to develop a kind of “positive addiction” on its own?

The secret is not to overtax my body.

If we recognize a goal spiritually, our body has not yet recognized anything. If we train and fix our mental will on this goal, our body still remains dormant blissfully. And then we suddenly start to realize this goal full of motivation (healthy nutrition, quitting smoking, regular sports, reducing weight). But we have not given our body the possibility to adjust to it. We simply sweep it along. We force him to do what our mind wants. So, it is logical that there is a struggle between mind and body…

… and as it usually ends, we know: “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak”. The body enforces its will in most cases. It does not allow itself to be forced by the spirit. So, we should slowly introduce our body to all physical goals. Every top athlete knows that he cannot immediately begin to target the goal. Every journey begins with the first step.

The motto is: Start very slowly and carefully.

If you want to eat yourself healthy, start with one or two foods, which you slowly limit more and more.
If you want to quit smoking, count the number of cigarettes per day at first and smoke only one cigarette less per day at the beginning.
If you want to exercise regularly, start by doing only half an hour once a week.
If your goal is to lose weight, leave only two or three bites at the beginning of each meal.

Begin by slowly and gently introducing your body to your mental goals. Then he will get used to it over time. In this way you will awaken the will of your body.

When we have awakened the will in our body, we train it. And we do this by making it familiar with the positive feelings associated with it. If we let our body feel how pleasant it feels when we pursue the goals – then it will develop its own will to achieve these goals. Our body will then pursue and achieve these goals on its own, out of a “positive addiction”.

It will work without any pain; you will enjoy it – and you will live in harmony with your body!

Exercise 42:

Work with your target collage or collages today and add physical targets to them.
Also remember to play your audio at the scheduled times!

Intermediate test 6:

Laurels in advance facilitates the achievement of objectives.
Let colleagues see clearly what your advantages are in achieving the common goal.
Concentrate your strength and focus on one goal.
Each development takes place in individual steps and never continuously.
I keep my goals to myself and instead build up a quiet anticipati

Recognition Unit 43:

What does the topic of will mean for our inner harmony?

Very often it happens that people have a strong will and reach their goals – but are full of inner restlessness. These people put themselves under strong pressure, are constantly fighting and – even if they reach their goal – do not really enjoy what they are doing. In addition, in these cases there is usually a very negative radiation from such people.

A strong will has absolutely nothing to do with compulsion and pressure.

Real strength can only arise if the inner balance, the self-confidence, the optimism, if the inner harmony is given. But wherever one forces oneself to do something, where one wants to run up against a brick wall, this inner harmony does not exist. And if this inner harmony is missing, no really strong will can arise.

A powerful will that is able to move a lot arises from the lightness of certainty. A person’s will become strong when he acts for his very personal goal from the feeling of “vocation”. When he experiences what he is doing as meaningful. When it gives him joy and when he feels that his abilities are challenged by it. When these things coincide, the person gets a very deep and resting certainty that what he wants to do is the right thing to do.

This creates – without any effort – an enormous motivation, which enables the implementation of things that were considered impossible shortly before. When this motivation, this strengthening of the will is achieved through accordance with the inner harmony, one experiences again and again that people, who are normally quite uncertain, suddenly go their way goal-oriented and unperturbed.

Why don’t you go to a wall and stand in front of it?

…now press with both hands against this wall. Take one or two steps back, so that you stand at an angle, and press harder and harder against this wall. Now close both eyes and only pay attention to your feeling. (Do this right now and before you continue reading…)

You will find that the more you push against the wall, the more you get the feeling that the wall is pushing back. If you do this exercise long enough, you get the impression over time that the wall is pushing back so hard that you can’t let go, because otherwise the wall would collapse. You suddenly feel very clearly: pressure creates counter-pressure.

If you want to achieve something with pressure and compulsion, you may actually succeed. But it will be much more difficult for you and you will have much less joy in it than if you would draw the power of your will from the ease of certainty. Identify yourself with your goals, believe in the feasibility, trust your abilities and be happy for yourself and full of confidence in the results.

And you will find that the ease of certainty creates a wonderful inner harmony and thus substantially strengthens your will.

Exercise 43:

Write down what you did with the wrapped paper from exercise 35 – we called it “ball of will” – and why.
Write down on a new sheet of paper at least 3 points which disturb your inner harmony in (professional) everyday life and which repeat themselves continuously.
Crumple the paper and carry it with you until you are able to solve the 3 points permanently or at least improve them.

Recognition Unit 44:

If the effects of the topic will on inner harmony are not considered, typical situations of failure and/or unwillingness to live occur again and again.

Let’s look at some examples together:

Sometimes it happens that we decide for a goal.

We only decide for the goal because we assume that it generates recognition for us from others or because we even think that other people would expect this from us. In such a situation we feel compelled to pursue this goal and act accordingly under pressure. An inner harmony cannot arise in this case because it is not our own goal. Self-confidence, belief in feasibility and identification with the goals can only grow if they are our own goals.

If you pursue foreign goals, you will have no inner harmony and you will always lack the decisive willpower.

Sometimes people do a job they really don’t like.

You will also lose motivation if you do a job that you don’t really like. Even if there are career prospects, you still have the feeling that you are in the “wrong” place. You can neither fully support what you are doing, nor do you have the feeling that what you are doing makes sense or that your own abilities are fully challenged. Then the things you do become very difficult, as if you were walking in a tenacious mass. All activities then demand an infinite amount of strength, and the entire profession then actually no longer gives pleasure.

Under these conditions it is probably clear that there can be no inner harmony and therefore no strong will to achieve goals.

Sometimes there is compulsion in partnerships.

Also, in a partnership one does not get very far with compulsion. It is clear to everyone that one cannot force feelings in another person. But so often it happens that one of the partners, by desperately trying to achieve a wrong goal (“healthy family”), puts himself under so much pressure that he often destroys the last remnant of the existing harmony. If there are doubts, if there is no joy or if one has the feeling of senselessness – then it is also time in a partnership to draw the consequences and either to work together and openly on it or to separate. To torture oneself further (and in the end to torture one’s partner as well) – only out of fear of loneliness or out of the compulsion to have a harmonious partnership – lets the inner harmony get more and more out of balance.

And without this inner harmony, a partnership between two people cannot function.

A goal behind which you do not stand 100%, in which you do not believe, in which you have no joy, whose meaningfulness you doubt – can perhaps be achieved in the short term. However, it will never be of long duration.

And without inner harmony you will have little joy in reaching a goal. And without the ease of certainty, you will not achieve this inner harmony.

Exercise 44:

Note which thoughts and feelings went through your mind while reading the recognition.

Are you in similar situations?
What points do you know (be honest with yourself – this entry is only for you) that disturb your inner harmony?

Recognition Unit 45:

How can we now apply the subject of will in such a way that our inner harmony is guaranteed?

From now on, let all your goals, all your projects and all your private life situations be free of pressure and compulsion. Don’t try to “run up against a brick wall”.

Instead, tell yourself, “I know it works, I can be relaxed and confident.”

And just look forward in advance to reaching your goal. Because if you are optimistic and full of self-confidence, this creates a balance and calm, which in turn creates your inner harmony. If you have the feeling that what you want to do or achieve gives you joy, you consider it to be meaningful and you are sure that it is possible – then an extremely powerful will develops all by itself.

Therefore, check before each goal setting and before each project whether the conditions mentioned apply.

If not, you should check your goals again. If yes, you know that you are on a good, promising path.

If we have the impression that we are not in the right place in the partnership or at work, it is important to apply a search behaviour and to look around what possibilities there would be to be able to restore inner harmony.

Under no circumstances you should continue as before if you are dissatisfied and “pull something through by force”.

Your inner harmony would decrease more and more, and the negative spiral would turn faster and faster. The sooner you recognize an unsatisfactory state for yourself and the sooner you react to it – the more you can save from it and the higher are your chances to get a positive result.

If you find yourself in a life situation which is unsatisfactory for you, but which you could change only with difficulty or slowly (for example a professional activity which does not give pleasure, which you consider to be senseless, which you do because it is part of your job), look for an additional project. A project that fills you with joy, gives you the feeling of being “used”, seems meaningful to you.

Your inner harmony, which is created by this additional project, will have a positive effect on your whole life.

Think about something that you like to do with joy, do it and observe what effect this has in your soul. Find out how much power you get and try to strengthen this side of your life more and more.

You should do more and more what you feel makes you happy, it makes sense, it gives you strength. You will notice how your inner harmony grows and grows more and more. Also, the power of your will becomes stronger and stronger all by itself. Without compulsion and pressure.

And you will find out how much greater the willpower is that arises from the ease of certainty. You will also feel more comfortable in all situations and have a more positive charisma

Exercise 45:

How would you feel if your inner harmony would exist?
If all the points from Exercise 44 were solved?

Cordial congratulations…

You’ve worked through the LAW OF WILL completely. Super !!!

and you will be redirected to the next law.

We wish you many new recognitions with the next law ..

Great, now you have successfully completed this exercise and internalised another step of the 12 laws. With each law, you will become more self-confident, think more sustainably and in a solution-oriented way. Each step will enable you to take the initiative and make conscious decisions in the future. Because who, if not you, determines your path.

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27. March 2025