No. 01 – The Law of Responsibility –

Those who take responsibility seize a great opportunity. And without taking responsibility in society, there will be no successful engagement in society. By learning to consciously take responsibility for my own thinking, I recognise the creative possibilities in my own area and gain personal freedom.

A: How would you explain the law of responsibility in a visual way?

B: Great question! The ‘law of responsibility’ essentially means:

👉 Everything you think, feel, say and do is your responsibility. No one else is responsible for your decisions – or for the consequences.

1. A person with scales on their shoulders

A person who carries a scale on their shoulders.

⚖️💁‍♂️ Symbol for: Every action and decision has a consequence – and you carry this ‘burden’ yourself.

2. A person holding a thread on which their own actions depend

Many threads emanate from the person’s hand – and each is connected to a small ‘scene’: a good deed, a lie, a mistake, an act of help.

🧵🎭 Symbol for: Everything you do is attached to your own thread of life.

3. Two paths, however, only one person decides

In the forest, two paths presented themselves to me, I chose the one less travelled. And that changed my life. ‘Author – Robert Frost’ A person stands at a crossroads. Two paths lead in different directions. No other people around – the decision is entirely up to them.

🛤️🤔 Symbol for: You are responsible for the path you choose.

In the forest, two paths presented themselves to me, I chose the one less travelled. And that changed my life.

‘Author – Robert Frost’

4. Mirror that reflects your own actions

A person throws a stone – and the mirror shows how the stone flies back to him.

🪞🪨 Symbol for: What you give to the world comes back to you – and you are responsible for it.

5. A tree watered by its own hand:

A person waters a tree – and the tree grows or withers depending on the care.

🌳💧 Symbol for: Your life grows when you take care of it. Your responsibility, your result.

6. A person with a key to their own door

A large door (future, possibilities), and the person has the key in their hand. Nobody else.

🚪🔑 Symbol for: You have the responsibility and the power to open your door – or to keep it closed.

Conclusion in the form of an image: Figuratively speaking, the law of responsibility means that you are the gardener of your own garden, the blacksmith of your own destiny, the signpost of your own life.

!ATTENTION!

NADEUM ANNUAL COACHING SOCIAL SKILLS – THE ‘12 LAWS OF SUCCESS’

Create your own, It starts here!

I apply the task to experience the first impressions. I am amazed at the effect it has.
This is a template for your coaching diary. You should use it to record your daily reflections, thoughts and events.

Day Times	Day sections	Day sections	Day sections
Period	morning	noon	afternoon
06:00 a.m. to 08:00 a.m.
08:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m.
10:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m.
12:00 p.m. to 02:00 p.m.
02:00 p.m. to 04:00 p.m.
04:00 p.m. to 06:00 p.m.
06:00 p.m. to 08:00 p.m.
08:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m.
10:00 p.m. to 12:00 p.m.
00:00 a.m. to 02:00 a.m.
02:00 a.m. to 04:00 a.m.
04:00 a.m. to 06:00 a.m.

Results

Once you have completed your exercise today, enter your findings in the corresponding field. If you still lack experience, simply practice this development step for another day. At the end of the diary: Look forward to your next learning session.

We wish you lots of fun and interesting insights.

Andreas Andiel has summarised the world’s most recognised know-how from the most proven success instructions for personal satisfaction and professional success in the context of the ‘12 natural laws for success’. And it is precisely this elite know-how that forms the basis for every online course in the areas of communication, self-motivation and motivation of others, as well as mental strength.

A few more important details…

Every evening, as the last action of the day, you fill out your personal diary and record your experiences of the day.

Important: This step of writing is very important for sustainable development. The following content is based on previous experiences! Only by registering your experiences in the training area can you make your progress tangible for yourself.

You can repeat the previous content and also read again and again what you have written down.

At regular intervals (every 7 units), you will take a short interim test with your coach. This helps you to consolidate your learning progress, discuss what you have learned with your coach and thus consolidate your knowledge.

At times, you may think that an exercise has little to do with your profession or your personality. The course is structured didactically. Please do not skip any knowledge or exercises – trust that each step is important.

For example: Professional athletes always start with a warm-up, constantly work on their fitness, strengthen their technique, and then move on to the game structure and a decisive competition. In professional sports, there is no ‘I already know that’ or ‘I don’t need that’

So complete each session before moving on to the next. Stay in the same session for two or three days if necessary. Train at your own pace.

YOUR NADEUM ANNUAL COACHING SOCIAL SKILLS

The ‘12 LAWS OF SUCCESS’ at a glance

[This is your first task. Read it carefully. If you have any questions, please contact your coach at the WhatsApp number: +43 660 7621873]

[You will see all laws again and again in all steps. When the text is blue, you are in the current exercise].

No. 01 – The Law of Responsibility –

Taking responsibility means taking advantage of a great opportunity. And without taking responsibility in society, there will be no successful engagement in society. By consciously taking responsibility for my own thinking, I recognise the creative possibilities in my own area and gain personal freedom.

! Please scroll down to the term ‘What are my goals’!

No. 02 – The Law of Learning –

Learning from ‘mistakes’ means improving the path until it leads to the achievement of a goal. Get out of the ‘mistake game’! The main topics in this unit are solution-oriented, constructive thinking and action, positive interaction with one’s own environment and the acceptance of all feedback as an indicator for optimising one’s own path.

No. 03 – The Law of Will –

The difference between dreams, desires and intentions. How to develop a determined willpower. Recognising your own goals, developing a goal plan, determining the necessary effort and learning to develop a strong will for activities for yourself (and others) that will enable you to achieve your goal in the first place.

No. 04 – The Law of Action –

Knowing when to act, what to do, and how to do it is the basis of every project. After completing the planning and decision-making, it is now a matter of moving from talking to action and focusing all energies on the start-up phase.

No. 05 – The Law of Trust –

It is important to trust in yourself. However, it is just as important that society/the environment builds trust in us! One of the most important prerequisites for this is reliability, which in turn is based on personal responsibility and time/self-management.

No. 06 – The law of Reality –

It is not always necessary to see everything the way everyone else sees it. However, it is crucial to know how others focus on learning to deal with it and to achieve a more understanding approach to your environment. Empathy, understanding and tolerance are key skills for living together in harmony.

No. 07 – The law of Adaptation –

Everyone is on their own at first. The closer you are to someone else, the closer you are to them. And the more you get. Conscious adaptation or non-adaptation must be used in combination with a responsible approach to one’s own environment. By consciously deciding to adapt or not to adapt, the individual gains personal freedom and strength.

No. 08 – The Law of Leadership –

The basics of ‘alpha leadership’ and how to use them correctly. The right balance between ‘leading’ and ‘letting lead’. In this unit, it is also important to learn how to consciously use the instrument of ‘letting lead’ and thus create valuable conditions for teamwork and/or team leadership.

No. 09 – The Law of Balance –

Recognising a balance between ‘giving’ and ‘taking’. The balance of body, mind and soul must be established in order to achieve the same performance. It is also important to consider compensation to third parties. ‘If you want to reap, you must first sow’. Those who are aware that they will always have to pay for the desired person in the form of services, resources, etc. will achieve their goals more easily and be appreciated by their fellow human beings for their efforts.

No. 10 – Law of Growth –

Everything grows through the alternation of push and pause. Those who handle it correctly get the most out of it. Continuous action leads to growth and success. This unit conveys the positive aspects of consistent action, the basic requirements for success in every activity (private or professional).

No. 11 – Law of Defence –

Knowing when, what and how to successfully defend yourself gives you the gentle calm of self-confidence. Develop a ‘we’ thinking in a conflict situation and find solutions together that everyone can support. This unit also provides basic skills for harmonious interaction with your professional, family and social environment.

No 12 – The Law of Usefulness –

When we give others what they want, they give us everything, according to the value we create for them. Increasing the value means getting more. Knowing one’s own value leads to a strong personality that is able to act calmly and sensibly in all situations and to shape one’s own life.

The exercise begins here. Please read carefully. First come instructions on how you can read and take on this exercise. The exercise is intended for a whole month. So take your time and practice this task.

What are my goals?

Before you start to define your goals in detail, use this worksheet to get an overview of your goals.

Take your time with this.

Note: This document contains only a small selection of possible goals. Think about what other goals you have or have had that you have not 100% achieved.

Worksheet:

1. Which goals apply to me here?

2. What percentage of these goals have I achieved so far?

3. more joy at work and thus more success in my career?

4. more appreciation and empathy from friends, acquaintances and colleagues?

5. more composure and inner peace and thus more self-confidence?

6. more positive charisma, authority and reputation?

7. desired weight and feel-good figure, healthy and fit body?

8. more understanding and harmony in your relationship?

9. more satisfaction and balance through more self-love?

10. release of fears and blockages for more security and sovereignty?

11. more freedom and quality of life through better time management?

12. more efficiency and effectiveness through better prioritisation?

13. more acceptance and motivation as a leader?

14. more persuasive power in conversations when it matters?

My STATUS QUO

Use this worksheet to work out your STATUS QUO.

– Take your time.

– Print out the document – or save it on your PC and edit it there.

Questions about STATUS QUO? Your COACH is there for you. Have fun working on it!

Status Quo

Definition:
What is the first thing a navigation system does?
It determines where you are!

‘Only those who know their destination will find their way.’ – Laotse

We humans don’t say everything we think and don’t show everything we feel. This is normal and basically a good thing. But over time, our self-image becomes deceptive. We believe what we show others, and at some point we believe it ourselves.

This makes it difficult to define the right, the true starting point, because at some point we can no longer distinguish between what we show others and what we really are.
This is where the right analysis technique, the right tool, the right question technique is needed.

Because without knowing where you stand, there is no predictable path to your goal.

1. Where do I stand?

2. What can I do?

3. What am I particularly good at?

4. What am I less good at?

(List all the skills you have here. Be honest with yourself. This is not about evaluation, but about analysis. The more honest you are with yourself now, the better you will be able to plan your path later.)

Which people around me sap my energy and demotivate / slow me down?

(List all these people here. It doesn’t matter whether you are dealing with them at the moment or not. Be honest and open with yourself. You don’t need to show this list to anyone.. ☺)

Which people around me can support and motivate me?

(List all these people here. It doesn’t matter whether you are in contact with them or not).

What activities do I enjoy?

(Again, list all activities, whether you think they will help you or not).

What activities do I not enjoy?

(Be honest with yourself. This is not about judgement, but about analysis. The more honest you are with yourself now, the easier it will be to plan your path later).

What financial resources do I have available to me?

(List all your income, savings and investments here. Not just what is left over at the end of the month, but everything that comes in before all deductions. We will break this down later).

What else is there to say about my current situation?

(How satisfied are you with your personal and professional situation at the moment? Be honest with yourself here, too).

CONGRATULATIONS!

You have laid a very important foundation and now know exactly where you stand. You will need this knowledge for the upcoming exercises

Now take the next step and define your goal.

My Goal

Use this worksheet to work out your COACHING GOAL. Take your time. Print the document – or save it to your PC and edit it there.

Define your coaching goal

Definition of a coaching goal

1. What exactly do you want to achieve?

2. Why do you want to achieve it?

3. What is it worth to you?

4. What will change for you if you achieve it?

5. What will happen if you don’t achieve it?

These questions show the difference between wishes, dreams, hopes and a real goal. And you cannot realise wishes, dreams and hopes yourself. You can only wish, dream and hope… Only real goals have a clear path that you can follow and know that you will achieve if you stay on it.

Feel what is really important to you and what goal you really want to achieve. So that you have a goal worth fighting for.

What do I want to achieve?

(List everything you want to achieve. Think of this field as a ‘Wish List’.)

What exactly do I want to achieve?

(Now go into more detail and write down WHAT EXACTLY you want to achieve. Do you really want that new car – or do you want recognition from other people? Do you really want a lot of money – or do you want more time for yourself in peace and security?)

Why do I want to achieve this?

(Write down what you will get if you achieve the goals listed above. Why is it worth your while to achieve these goals?)

What is it worth to me?

(This field is the ‘inventory’. Offer a fair and just consideration for achieving your goals. For example, time, effort, learning, discipline, ‘biting through’, etc.)

What will change for me if I achieve it?

(Describe what your life will look like if you achieve the defined goals.)

What happens if I don’t achieve it?

(Be honest with yourself. What will your life look like if you have not achieved the defined goals?)

When I imagine that I have achieved my goal… how does it feel?

(Close your eyes, make yourself comfortable and imagine that you have achieved all the defined goals. Where are you then? Who else is there? What are you saying and doing then? What are the others saying and doing? How do you feel?)

Are these really MY goals that I have defined here?

(Check again to see if they are really YOUR goals that you have defined – or perhaps just goals that you want to achieve because others expect it of you, others want it of you? If so, go back to the first box and start again. Be completely honest with yourself here too.)

CONGRATULATIONS!

You have taken a very important step for yourself and gained a significant advantage over most people: you know where you started and you know where you want to go!

Many people go a way without knowing where they started or where they want to go. Now go ahead and define your way……

more about this in the next window!

MY PATH

Use this worksheet to develop your PATH.

Take your time.

Print out the document – or save it on your PC and work on it there.

Do you have any questions while you are developing your PATH? Your TRANSFER COACH is there for you.

This document is your PERSONAL FOUR-STEP PLAN to your goal.

1. Always carry your path with you!

2. Review your path again and again!

3. Regularly check where you stand and which intermediate steps still lie ahead!

Have fun training!

Definition of the path

‘If you want to reach a goal, don’t shy away from the path, no matter how smooth or rocky it may be.’

– Theodor Fontane –

Once you know where you are starting from and what your actual goal is, the next step is to define a detailed path to that goal with intermediate goals and checkpoints.

When developing the path to your goal, you need to pay attention to efficiency, consistency, motivation, continuity, the right priorities, the right attitude, existing beliefs, knowledge to be acquired and much more.

Your personal path to your goals is created from this information.

This creates a path that you can follow and that will lead you safely to your goal.

What skills do I need to develop to achieve my goal?

(Which skills can you learn that would help you achieve your goal? Skills are personal traits such as listening well, responding to others, thinking quickly, reasoning logically, convincing others, etc.)

Which techniques do I need to acquire and when and how can I do this most quickly and easily?

(Which learnable techniques could help you achieve your goals? Unlike skills, techniques are learnable sequences, such as argumentation techniques, persuasion techniques, meditation techniques, running and breathing techniques, speaking techniques, etc.) How are the intermediate goals, control units and motivational peaks structured?

Let’s assume you have a year to achieve your goals. You plan 12 milestones (each month of the current year should be a goal):

What are these milestones?
How will you check whether you have achieved them?
How will you measure your goal achievement?
How will you motivate/reward yourself for achieving the milestones?

Efficiency

(Think about what you can do to achieve your goals as efficiently as possible).

Consistency

(Think about what you can do to achieve your goals as consistently as possible).

Consistency refers to the quality of always behaving in the same way or of having the same opinions, standard, etc. It can also refer to the degree of density, firmness, viscosity, etc. of a substance. Consistency is the agreement or harmony of parts or features to one another or a whole, and the ability to be asserted together without contradiction. It is also the property of holding together and retaining its shape

Motivation

(Think about what you can do to keep your motivation high throughout the year).

Continuity

(Think about what you can do to achieve your goals as consistently as possible).

Prioritisation

(Think about whether it makes sense to prioritise in order to achieve your goals).

Attitude

(consider whether your attitude allows you to work towards your goals in a motivated, consistent and persistent way…)

Beliefs

(Examine your beliefs: Are you convinced that you will achieve your goals – or do you doubt it? Write down your thoughts honestly and openly here and discuss them with your coach and/or in the group. Share your thoughts with others. This will help you develop inner strength for your goals).

Knowledge

(Think about what knowledge you can still acquire to achieve your goals with confidence).

…and everything else I need for my journey

(Write down everything else you can think of regarding your personal journey and goals. Discuss them with your coach and/or in the group. Exchange ideas with others).

CONGRATULATIONS!

You have now defined YOUR STATUS QUO, YOUR GOAL and YOUR PATH.
Now it’s time to walk this path together!

YOUR COACH will support you according to the motto: ‘ACHIEVING GOALS TOGETHER’.

THE LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY

Very few people are truly happy and satisfied with their lives. The question is: why don’t they change that? Quite simply, they don’t know what to change to be happier. And the reason for this is quite simple: it’s the way they think!

To help you determine your status quo for the responsibility module, you will find a self-test in the next window…

SELF-TEST RESPONSIBILITY

Do you present yourself as you are?

Being authentic – always and everywhere – means presenting yourself as you really are. Here you can find out how you see yourself and how others see you. Please choose only one answer per question.

NOTE: You will evaluate the results yourself by counting the same letters on a piece of paper.

1. How do you come across to people when you meet them for the first time?

calm and sensible (C)
lively and spontaneous (B)
friendly and open (A)
reserved and sensible (D)

2. How do you see yourself?

calm and sensible (C)
lively and spontaneous (B)
friendly and open (A)
reserved and sensible (D)

3. What do other people value about you?

that I am spontaneous (A)
that I am interesting (B)
that I value myself (D)
that I work hard (C)

4. 4/1. Which of the four characteristics do you most identify with? Please tick!

idealistic (D)
willing to take risks (B)
pragmatic (A)
patient (C)

5. 4/2. Which of these four characteristics do you most identify with? Please tick!

realistic (A)
reliable (C)
creative (B)
sensitive (D)

6. Which colour do you like best?

royal blue (D)
bright red (A)
pale yellow (C)
clover green (B)

7. Close your eyes and imagine a bright blue sky. The sun is shining on your face and a light wind is blowing. Which landscape best matches this picture?

A beach with palm trees and a turquoise sea (B)
A green meadow (D)
A field of sunflowers and lavender (C)
A snowy mountain landscape (A)

8. You are on your way to an important meeting and hear your daily horoscope on the radio, predicting difficult negotiations. What do you do?

I pick up the phone and cancel the appointment (D)
I don’t believe in bad horoscopes (A)
I redouble my efforts to start the conversation well (C)
What will be will be – with or without a horoscope (B)

9. A fairy offers you a kind of life coaching. What would you like?

a coach (D)
a stylist (C)
a fortune teller/astrologer (B)
a fitness trainer (A)

10. What is most likely to be neglected in your life?

my needs (A)
my talents (C)
my dreams (B)
my goals (D)

Now write your answers on a piece of paper. Which letter predominates? You will see the evaluation in the next window.

Evaluation: Here you can see which letter (A, B, C, D) best matches your current situation…

Predominantly A – The calming influence:

You are completely authentic and radiate calmness. You have the wonderful gift of intuitively assessing people and situations and giving everyone what they need. You are probably described as warm-hearted and generous. However, you can also be quite different: if someone tries to take advantage of you, you will find surprisingly clear words.

Predominantly B – The Doer:

You are refreshingly spontaneous and full of energy. You always find the right tone. You are self-confident and compassionate – or so it seems. However, there is also a hint of arrogance. You like to be the centre of attention and give a lot in return. Your special gift is motivation: you can inspire others and yourself to achieve your best.

Predominantly C – Still Waters Run Deep…

Think before you act – that’s your motto. Spontaneity is sometimes in short supply for you. You have to be really known to be appreciated – however, once you’re known, you tend to be very popular. You radiate competence and self-confidence – and when you take on something, you can be relied on one hundred per cent. You have more abilities than you realise – and that’s precisely where your potential for development lies.

Mostly D – clever sensitive

You are a good listener and approach others patiently and empathetically. When you say something, it is well considered and thought out. You are admired and receive recognition for this. The only problem is: you don’t like it. You quickly take offence to criticism or irony. You do everything for people you care about.

Now you have a self-assessment of your current status quo on this topic.

Think about it, discuss it with your coach or share your thoughts with the community.

Now go to the next window and start your first recognition session right away…

Recognising unit 1:

Let’s start by looking at what you are responsible for. To what extent you are responsible for your life.

What is responsibility?

There are different lessons…
There are two large groups, one of which are those who stand at the front and teach you this topic in the following way:

‘If you finally take responsibility, if you finally get a grip on your life, if you finally believe that you can do something, then you will also succeed…’

The others – those who talk about responsibility are the ones who explain it to you like this:

‘Life is a broad, calm stream, you can’t do anything about it! Everything is predetermined. Responsibility – no one has to be accountable for anything…’

Who is right?

Which of the two models do you think is the key to success?

Now, please think about it before you read on…

If you have already decided on one of the two options, I’m afraid I’ll have to disappoint you. It’s not that simple.

We can’t take responsibility for everything, however we are also not uninvolved in everything.

In the course of this law, we will learn to what extent we can influence the things around us and what we alone are responsible for.
In any case, you should deal with the topic of responsibility very, very strongly, because responsibility is the basis for everything if you want to be satisfied privately and successful professionally.
Just ask yourself for the next hour, with everything that happens: ‘What are you responsible for and what are you absolutely sure you are not responsible for?’

Exercise 1:

Do this exercise during the day.

It is important to really put it into practice, gain self-insight and write it down.
This self-reflection is an important part of your development and you need it as part of the Cross-Check exercise programme.
Did you sometimes play detective as a child? Or would you like to do it sometimes today?
If so, that’s good. If not, try it for a day anyway.

Observe everyone around you carefully for a day, from the moment you wake up until you go to bed.

Try to figure out who reacts to which of your actions and how.
And if you want to get even better: try to figure out why the people around you react the way they do.
And then ask yourself what you could have done to elicit a different response.

If you play this game with focus and are a good detective, you will quickly realise how much your environment is influenced by your actions. Yes, and then you just ask yourself what you are solely responsible for.
At the end of the day, write about your experiences in your diary in the next window.

Recognising unit 2:

Let’s look at our daily practice when we don’t apply the concept of responsibility properly. See if any of the following situations sound familiar:

Once again, there is too much money left over at the end of the month! Your income is never enough to cover all your needs and obligations. However, what can you do? There is no way they will give you a raise. These days, you have to be happy just to have a job.
Another Monday. Work begins again. How nice it would be to have a few days off. You drag yourself to work with difficulty. It will somehow work out. It’s no use anyway. You need the job to earn the necessary money.
Again, no positive result with the customer. Always this mistrust with potential customers. However, that’s the way it is. You can’t change people. You just have to accept these defeats. The others are not doing any better.
Still not as successful as you had actually imagined and planned. Somehow it just doesn’t work. You always give your best and only a few really appreciate it. However, that’s life. You have to be able to compromise. Anyone who claims otherwise is a dreamer.

There are countless other examples that could be listed here, however, we believe that you already understand what is meant.

Those who accept things instead of looking for and dealing with responsibility know one thing for sure: that nothing will ever change for them.

It is therefore worthwhile in any case to thoroughly deal with the topic of responsibility and apply it.

Those who do not deal with the issue of responsibility will one day, at their last hour, be like the farmer Sepp, who is lying on his deathbed while his wife Zenzi is holding his hand. And he says:

A] ‘Whenever I felt bad, Zenzi, you were with me! After the war, Zenzi, you were with me!

B] ’Yes, Sepp, I was with you!

A] ‘Well, Zenzi, and when I broke my leg, you were with me!’

B] “Yes, Sepp, I was with you.’

A] ”And when the house burnt down, when I had syphilis and when I was broke, you were always with me, Zenzi!’

B] ’Yes, Sepp, I was always with you.’

A] ‘And now that I’m finished, you’re with me!’

B] “Yes, Sepp, now I’m with you too.’

A] ”You know, Zenzi, get out of here, you don’t bring me luck!’

Do you want to blame everyone else at the end of your journey for so many things that didn’t work out?

Exercise 2:

Which of the situations mentioned in the recognition unit seem familiar to me?
Think about it and observe yourself in your daily life:
Which comparable situations from my life keep recurring?

Ask yourself:

Why has this not changed to this day?

Recognising unit 3:

What goes wrong in all these life situations? Probably none of the participants will be really satisfied with their lives, completely happy.

But then why does nothing change for most people?

Quite simply… because they do not know the main reason for their imbalance. And this

reason is quite simple: your thinking is wrong! Of course, there are other components as well – all of which are covered in this course – however, the basis for everything is correct thinking. And responsibility for it.

Let’s go through how we constantly influence our lives:

First of all, our thoughts are present. That is why we believe certain things and not others. This belief in turn leads to certain attitudes towards things within us. This is the basis of our inner attitude.

And this inner attitude is reflected in our outer appearance:

what we say, how we act, what we do, our body language, our facial expression and our gestures, how we look and so on.

However, each of our actions triggers a reaction and sets a process in motion with all its subsequent processes. And because of our personal responsibility for our thoughts, we alone are responsible for…

how much our environment can influence us
what is going on inside of us
how and to what extent we influence our environment
what actions, reactions and processes we trigger in ourselves and our environment

You alone are the one who consciously decides on your thoughts and thus on the energies you release and the actions and processes you trigger with them.

Thus, you alone are responsible for all those areas that have their basis in your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. To a large extent, personal satisfaction and professional success are rooted in the right thinking. You won’t win the lottery just because you think right, and you won’t have a dream partner at your feet just because you think positively – however, your life will be much better if you take responsibility for your thinking and thus for your actions and consciously think and act according to this law.

Responsibility is the basis for everything else. If you understand this and put it into practice, you are already halfway there.

Even if it seems incredible to you now: a sufficient income, enjoyment of work, harmony in your relationship, success in your career and much more are largely based on you taking responsibility for your own thinking and thus for your own actions. For some, this may be an uncomfortable realisation. For others, it is a great opportunity.

Decide for yourself!

Let’s look at this story…

1. One day at lunch, a man asked his wife why she always cut off both ends of a roast. His wife replied, ‘I don’t know, my mother always did it that way.’

2. Not satisfied with this answer, the man waited until he met his mother-in-law again and asked her why she always cut off both ends of the rolled roast when cooking, so that her daughter would do the same today. However, his mother-in-law also gave the answer he had already heard: ‘I don’t know, my mother always did it that way.’

3. It was a lucky coincidence that his wife’s grandmother was still alive and he was able to ask her at a family celebration why she always cut off both ends of the rolled roast so that her daughter and granddaughter would do the same today?

The answer was surprisingly simple: ‘I had to do it. Our pan was too small.’

Exercise 3:

Let’s be honest: Do you think it’s possible that you do things just because you’ve always done them that way, because ‘that’s how you do it,’ ‘because that’s what everyone does’…

If you want to start taking responsibility for yourself and your life, then start today by asking yourself for at least a full day:

Why am I doing this?
What’s the benefit?

And if you don’t have a satisfactory answer, then maybe you’ll ask yourself if you want to continue. And there you are, right in the middle of taking responsibility for yourself. Congratulations!

Make a note of the things you now want to do differently than before!

Recognising unit 4:

To better illuminate the topic of responsibility and to truly understand the system, we first look at what our world consists of, what we and our environment are made of.

We all know the structure of the hydrogen atom?

An atomic nucleus – an electron.

To get a feel for the dimensions we will be looking at, let’s imagine that the atomic nucleus is the size of a pinhead. The electron would then be the size of a grain of sand and would orbit the pinhead at a distance of about 100 metres.

It always orbits the pinhead at the same distance because its centrifugal force is exactly equal to the attractive force that the atomic nucleus exerts on the electron via the orbital velocity.

Now we have the atomic nucleus and the electron. And these two form a mass that makes up exactly 0.0001% of the entire atom.

However, what do the remaining 99.9999% consist of?

The remaining 99.9999% is nothing, right?

Everything material in our world consists of atoms. Is 99.9999% nothing in the material world?

No – 99.9999% of a hydrogen atom consists of energy! And it is this energy that creates the matter that we then perceive in our material world.

This makes it clear that it is not mass that is decisive in our world, but that energy is the decisive element with which we should concern ourselves in every respect!

If we follow this insight further, we will also discover that our thoughts are pure energy. And with this energy of our thoughts – including both conscious and unconscious thinking – we set in motion and influence all processes in and around us.

Let’s take an example: An unpleasant situation arises for you and you blush. There is no physical reason for the increased blood flow. Rather, this physical reaction (blushing) is triggered exclusively by a certain assumption of your thinking. Have you ever been hungry and thought about your favourite food?

Have you noticed how your mouth watered?

Again, there is no physical reason for increased salivation! In reality, no food was consumed.

Your thoughts alone influenced your body.

Exercise 4:

A very unusual game awaits you in today’s exercise. However, by the end of it, you will have gained some very valuable experiences.

The exercise is as follows: look strangers and passers-by in the eye – and make sure you are in places where you will encounter many people and cannot avoid them immediately (department store, bus, subway, full elevator, etc.) – as dark, hostile and grim as possible.

For understandable reasons, you should not involve the people you know in this exercise.

Pay attention to how people react when you approach them in this negative way. And, above all, pay attention to how you feel when you do it.

Food for thought

Today you will receive a little story that will help you to practise things that you may already ‘know’…

The invention of the game of chess

‘If you do nothing, the only thing you know is that nothing will change.’

And by doing little, you give up a lot.

You probably know the story of the man who, as a reward for inventing the game of chess, was allowed to wish for anything he wanted.

This man had the following wish: ‘One grain of rice on the first square of a chessboard, two on the second, four on the third, eight on the fourth, etc.’

As we know, it was impossible to fulfil this wish, because for the 64th square, there would have had to be as many grains of rice as there were in the whole world.

It is interesting to note that there would have been only half as many grains of rice on the 63rd square and only 6.25% on the 60th.

A difference of 93.75% based on four squares of 64!

What does this have to do with the course?

Well, this course is designed to be taught. Each unit, with its recognition and practice, builds on previous knowledge transfer, self-reflection, observations and experiences.

Each unit reinforces what is already there and prepares for what is yet to come.

If you were to leave out even one ‘field’ of this course, it would be like leaving out the 64th field

And now you can imagine how much you have missed if you have ‘skimmed’ two, three, four recognition units and/or skipped one, two, three, four exercises.

Each skipped development step could be the 64th field…

Do not leave anything out!

Recognising unit 5:

You can observe this direct influence on your body in countless examples through your thinking alone. Since only you are responsible for your thoughts and the effects of this energy, only you are responsible for all the processes within you.

What about the influence on your environment?

Here is an example: Imagine you are a teenager again. You are planning to go to a disco with friends. You are wearing old clothes that you no longer like. You think your hair could do with a trim. You have a blackhead that bothers you terribly and you also notice that you have 1-2 kilograms too many on your ribs.

And how did such evenings go? Not exactly sensational, were they?

Now let’s imagine a different evening:

You are either wearing newly purchased clothes or your favourite item of clothing – you have been to the hairdressers and also have clean skin without blackheads. The 1-2 kilos are still too much, you look in the mirror, think you look good, and look forward to the evening.

How did such evenings usually go?
Much more positive – right?

What is the difference between the two evenings?

Just that you no longer liked your ‘old clothes’ – there were certainly enough people who liked your ‘old clothes’ even better than the new ones.

The difference in the haircut – if it was a normal follow-up cut – was usually not even recognisable to an outsider.

Whether you had a blackhead or not was not recognisable in the light of the nightclub.

Nevertheless, there is a strong difference in the way you appear to other people in these examples.

This difference was and is created solely by your thinking.

Because the energy of your thinking influences how you act. That is, your language, your posture, your facial expressions, your gaze, your gestures. And the sum of these things is your charisma.

So who is responsible for influencing your environment?

Quite clearly – you.

However, every action triggers a reaction and sets a process in motion with all its subsequent processes. And so you alone are responsible for the following through the personal responsibility of your thoughts:

the extent to which your environment can influence you
what is going on inside you
how and to what extent you influence your environment
what actions and reactions and thus processes you set in motion in yourself and your environment.

Exercise 5:

Today, we are also playing this unusual game. Only with the opposite outcome.
The task for today is:

Look passers-by and strangers you meet in the eye – and make sure that you are again in places where you meet many people and cannot immediately avoid them, e.g. department store, bus, subway, full elevator, etc. Look as friendly, open and smiling as possible.
You can include everyone you know in this exercise.

Again, pay attention to people’s reactions when you approach them in this positive way.

And above all, pay attention to how you feel yourself.

Recognising unit 6:

1. Just as everyone bears personal responsibility for their own development within their social, immediate and wider environment, they also bear responsibility for the development of society at various levels.

For example, in the family, at work, however also in the community, for the state and for society as a whole.

Responsibility therefore means not only personal responsibility for one’s own success, but also overall responsibility for everything one influences.

2. When making any decision, be it big or everyday, we should be aware that we set the trigger through the energy of our thoughts. And with that, we have the responsibility for ourselves, for our participation in society and our contribution to the development of our environment.

Everyone must take on this responsibility. As long as a person is capable of making decisions, it cannot be transferred to anything or anyone.

3. However, the individual can make the decision themselves to the best of their knowledge and belief or against better knowledge and belief. It is in this freedom of choice that humans differ from animals.

They make conscious decisions.

4. It is only you who consciously decides on your thoughts and thus on the energies you release and the actions and processes you trigger with them, and thus bears the responsibility.

5. And taking on this responsibility is the indispensable basis for professional and private success, a contented and harmonious life, as well as inner health and personality.

Stop complaining about the negative circumstances in your environment.

Instead, simply take responsibility for the extent to which you allow yourself to be influenced and the triggers you set in your environment – without judgement and feeling.

See responsibility as the great opportunity that it actually is!

Because if you are responsible for how much you allow yourself to be influenced and if you are also responsible for the triggers you set in your environment, then you have only one thing to do:
Allow yourself to be influenced only as much as you want, and only set the triggers that lead to the processes you want to set in motion.

Anyone who understands this and uses it as an opportunity has the basis for every success.

Exercise 6:

For one day, you have consciously sent negative and positive signals. And you have noticed how your signals alone change your environment.

Today you start to consciously and responsibly ‘play’ with them.

The task for today is:

Look at all passers-by and strangers you meet, again as dark, dismissive and grim or as friendly, open and smiling in the eye as you can.

And of course, today make sure that you are in places where you meet many people and can not immediately avoid them, such as department store, bus, subway, full elevator, etc. You can also try changing your signals several times in quick succession, but only when you are with strangers.
Pay attention to people’s reactions and, above all, observe how easy it is for you to change the mood and reactions of those around you. Also pay attention to how you feel about it yourself.

After this session at the latest, you should feel exactly how much responsibility you have for yourself through your thoughts and signals alone – but also, however, what a great opportunity this self-responsibility is for you and your life!

Recognising unit 7:

Let’s now take a look at how we can implement these insights in our private lives, how we can deal with the topic of responsibility in our family, with friends, acquaintances, colleagues – and above all with ourselves…

Perhaps the following situation seems familiar?

You meet a group of people for the first time who are complete strangers to you (at an event, a training session, in a club, at a lecture, etc.). You automatically wonder:

– What do they think of me?

– What do they expect of me?

– What do they already know about me?

– How do I come across to them?

You feel insecure because you doubt your appearance and charisma. And that’s why you seem insecure.

Take responsibility for your own thoughts and think:

These people are happy that I am here too.

‘These people want to be received and understood just like everyone else, and I will take that into account. That’s why these people will like me.’

“I am open, self-confident and have a pleasant, positive charisma.

You will notice that your attitude – internally and externally – and thus your charisma will become more confident, friendly and personable. Your statements, your facial expressions, your gestures will do the same – and you will automatically reap more positive reactions.

If you want to meet someone (which is not only interesting and enjoyable in your private life, but also essential for your professional life), don’t spend a long time wondering how you will come across to the other person(s). You can’t judge it anyway. The longer you doubt, the more you get caught up in negative thoughts and lose courage.

Take responsibility for your thoughts:

‘This person likes to hear nice things about themselves just as much as anyone else. And I can only find out anything else if I say hello.’

The more positively and openly you approach this person, the more likely it is that you will be able to understand them.

When we have a disagreement with someone close to us (partner, colleague, customer, friend, etc.), it’s easy to think:

‘He/she deliberately wants to hurt me, wants to harm me, knows that this statement hurts me and does it anyway, is deliberately malicious towards me, is playing with me…’

Take responsibility for your thoughts and remember in these situations:

‘I like him/her and he/she likes me.’

‘This is only about the topic and none of the negative personal statements are really meant and he/she will be sorry again tomorrow.’

You will notice that you are much more self-confident and understanding – and suddenly argue less.

Don’t let yourself be ruled by random feelings and creeping doubts, but take responsibility for your thoughts. Believe in it and be sure that the people around you like, respect and like you.

Be open, self-confident and – smile. You have every reason to!

Exercise 7:

Go out today into a group of people, such as in a restaurant, at the office or at an event. Then pick one person and think only of the positive qualities of that person.

1. Think, for example, about how likeable, kind, clever, etc. this person is. And above all, keep reminding yourself that this person also finds you likeable, kind, clever, etc. During the exercise, expect only positive actions and reactions from this person (which, of course, you should not tell anyone about, and certainly not the person in question).

And observe what happens.
How does this person behave and how do you behave towards this person?

your thinking and attitudes.

2. Observe exactly how you ‘only’ influence your attitude, your thinking, the behaviour of your environment and your own. Become aware of the possibilities you have when you take responsibility for
3. If you do not come to a clear insight during this exercise (and the previous three), repeat it over the next few days until you have gained this clear insight.

Knowing what personal responsibility means in terms of attitudes and thoughts and what a great opportunity it is is the key to all the other principles of contentment and success.

This is to be practised with your coach:

Intermediate test 1:

I am responsible for everything in my life.

I have to accept things as they are.

My thinking is the basis for how my life develops.

Determination creates automatism.

I can consciously take responsibility for my thinking.

After these exercises, which point is ‘yours’?

Answer:

Correct

False

Irrelevant

Recognising unit 8:

And now let’s look at how we can implement these insights in such a way that we benefit from them in our profession:

Firstly, strike the term ‘having to work’ from your vocabulary!

Because we associate ‘having to’ with everything we don’t enjoy. And that’s not true. If we look at it closely, you can earn money.

And that’s not true. If we look at it closely, you can earn money. That means constantly learning new things and developing, having the feeling and knowledge of being needed, being with other people, creating and building something to be proud of, rightly expecting and receiving recognition, and being part of a community.

People are not made to laze around, even if it sometimes seems that way.

Think about it: when you have been hanging around all day and getting nowhere, or when you have done a great job and fallen into bed dead tired?

Look, you are allowed to work. Look forward to it every day!

And suddenly you will notice that your work is getting easier, you are making more progress and things are going better in your job. Even if it sounds incredible – it’s that simple.

When you are working on a project, don’t constantly doubt its success. Don’t constantly be afraid that something could go wrong at any moment.

Take responsibility for your thoughts consciously.

And believe it, be sure that this project will be a success. Trust that you will do the right thing at the right time and look forward to success in advance. The necessary self-confidence, composure and charisma that you need to be successful will then come automatically.

To be successful in your career, it is extremely important to know the right people at the right time.

In order to do that, however, you first have to get to know them. Now you will certainly understand the principle of making contact with people who are important to you.

If you look and behave like a doubting Thomas, a shy person, an unsuccessful person, then your approach will be perceived as harassment. However, if you radiate self-confidence, security, openness, friendliness and success, then even the biggest celebrities and multinational corporations will be happy to meet with you. Because believe me: there are so few (future) winners that everyone is happy to meet one.

In general, this principle applies to all professions where trust and a sense of security are the basis for successful action for all parties involved.

And this feeling can only be conveyed by someone who radiates it and expresses it in this way. And that can only be done by someone who takes responsibility for their thoughts and consciously thinks ‘correctly’.

Exercise 8:

For 21 days, make a list of three things you liked most about your work that day. Hang this list in a visible place at your workplace and end each working day for 21 days with these three things. You don’t have to write anything down.

Just pick the three things you liked the most (so far). Start each list with this sentence:

‘Today I particularly liked the following three things about my work and my workplace…’

Why 21 days in a row?

The brain works much better in a positive state than in a neutral or negative state. Intelligence is higher, creativity increases and energy levels rise.
With just two minutes of effort for 21 consecutive days, it is possible to reprogram the brain to work in a more optimistic and successful way.
You can achieve this by writing down three new things every day that you are grateful for. After 21 days, the brain begins to scan the world for positive things first, rather than negative things.

3-Things-List to print…

Use this template to reflect on your implementation each day for the next 21 days…

3 things…

Today I particularly liked the following three things about my workplace…

I liked 1.)
I liked 2.)
I liked 3.)

Recognising unit 9:

Let’s summarise: As you can see, the way you think, how you THINK and how much responsibility you take for it is the key to personal satisfaction and professional success. However, it is not enough – as is often wrongly assumed – to say a few positive sentences every day.

Really make these new, positive thought patterns your own, even train them. Let go of the old, negative and fearful thought patterns. Where else should all the new positive thoughts go? Into the cesspool of the last 20 years! And that would be like trying to make a full oil barrel crystal clear with a few drops of water.

So: get rid of both the old thought patterns and constantly train the new conscious thought patterns.

You will also suffer some defeats, where your subconscious mind will immediately tell you:

‘See, I knew it right away, it’s no use.’

Do not give up control of your thoughts in these moments. Take control of your thinking, take responsibility, train the new thought patterns, just as a top athlete continues to train despite defeats – and you will find that over time many things become much easier.

And suddenly you will experience more joy and more success. Believe me – it’s worth it.

We can always fall back on the fact that our inner and outer attitudes are closely connected. How does that help us?

Now it’s easy: while standing, let your arms and head hang down in front of you so that your fingertips almost touch the floor. And now say with conviction: ‘It’s great, what a beautiful day it is today.’

Is that hard? Now the other way around: straighten up, stretch your arms up, look at the sky and say with conviction: ’What a shitty day today!’

You will notice that your inner attitude follows your outer posture.

So, the next time you feel down, pull your shoulders back, stick out your chest, look up, walk tall, walk confidently and proudly, put on an honest smile – and you will find that it helps.

Consistency:

In everything I have done, am doing and plan to do, I consciously take responsibility for my thoughts and my inner attitude and thus for each of my actions and the resulting processes. From daily smiles to life decisions.

Exercise 9:

1. Write down three things you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.

2. In addition, we are repeating the exercise today in which you ask yourself for a whole day:

‘Why am I doing this?’
‘How does it help me?’

And if you can’t find a satisfactory answer to something, maybe you should ask yourself again if you want to continue like this?

Why not find out if one or two small details have already changed?

Make a note of the things you want to do differently than before or leave them and compare them AFTER (!) this exercise with your notes from exercise 3. If there are other things in exercise 3, then add your notes to today’s exercise entry.

Recognising unit 10:

WHAT DOES RESPONSIBILITY MEAN FOR OUR BODY?

Responsibility for your own body begins with defining for yourself what you like. This applies both to the way your body looks and to how satisfied or dissatisfied you are with the functionality of your body.

If you allow the media, society or your environment to impose their definition of physical beauty on you, you are just as irresponsible about your appearance as if you let yourself go and were dissatisfied.

The same applies to the functionality of your own body. If you, as a sworn ‘comfort fanatic’, finally pull yourself together and suddenly go jogging every day because the doctor prescribes it for you or your partner demands it of you, then in this case you are only doing what others demand of you.

In this case, however, you are not taking responsibility for yourself.

In all these cases, responsibility was never taken for oneself.

They simply did what was imposed on them by their environment. However, this way you will…

never feel good,
– never look the way you want to, and…
– never be satisfied with your body.

Most people blame everyone and everything for gaining weight, having to live an unhealthy life and moaning because they don’t like themselves and don’t feel fit. However, they never take responsibility for their own body.

Taking responsibility for your own body starts with defining for yourself what you like and how fit you want your body to be.

If you now take responsibility for your own body, it logically follows that you also carry out your own programme for your body and do not shirk responsibility by simply doing what others tell you to do because ‘they know what’s best’.

If you do this, you have taken the first step towards taking responsibility for your body. Congratulations!

Exercise 10:

1. Write down three things you liked best about your job and/or your workplace.
2. Stand naked in front of the mirror!

Look at your body, your face, your posture. Look at yourself from the front, from behind and from the side. Now take note of three things you really like about your body and three things you don’t like about your body.

Observe carefully how you feel physically.

How do you feel when you climb stairs? When did you run? Do you sleep well or badly?

Define for yourself whether you are satisfied with your appearance and your health. And then decide – again entirely on your own – whether you want to change anything about it.

Decide for yourself: Do I want something about my body to change? If so, what? Write it down…

Recognising unit 11:

Let’s look at some typical examples from everyday life in which people fail to take responsibility for their own bodies.

And the consequences associated with this…

Our parents, our partner or someone else is constantly telling us to eat more.

Our body needs food, our body needs strength. And we are served and served. If we don’t eat up now, we feel that we are offending or bothering the other person or people.

So we eat well and this goes on for several years. At some point we stand in front of the mirror, look at our rolls of fat and feel: the longer we look at ourselves in the mirror, the angrier we get at the person who has always served us. After all, it’s only that person’s fault that we no longer like ourselves, right?

Summer is coming, and with it the bathing season and the time when people show themselves with relatively little clothing.

Because you want other people to perceive you as beautiful, you start a diet. You pick a diet plan out of a newspaper, get tips from friends, buy a book or consult a doctor.

Then you start biting your lip and sticking to what someone else tells you. You actually lose weight, and 14 days later you’re back to your old weight. So you sit there and get annoyed at this stupid programme that didn’t help you in the end, but only made your life miserable for a while.

I read about it in magazines, watch TV, listen to the radio and hear from friends and colleagues that sport is good and that everyone who is anyone goes jogging every day.

Encouraged by this, I go to the nearest sports shop, buy a pair of jogging shoes and some trendy clothes, and resolve to go jogging every day from now on. The torture begins every day when I get up in the morning. I am constantly out of breath when I run and completely exhausted after running.

Why?

Because I always run faster than I feel comfortable when someone can see me, because I don’t want to make a fool of myself by trotting along so slowly. And so I run more and more reluctantly. And thank God I find enough excuses to stop running altogether.

Someone is a heavy smoker and doesn’t really care whether it’s good for their body or not.

Suddenly, however, their partner asks them to stop smoking because it is not good for either of them. They agree to stop smoking and immediately throw away their cigarettes.

At first it works quite well, but over time he smokes a cigarette. However, after each cigarette he feels worse and worse and constantly blames himself – namely, towards the partner who puts him under pressure and makes him feel guilty. And it won’t be long before this person decides that they can’t take it anymore and start smoking heavily again.

Exercise 11:

1. Write down three things you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.
2. Walk everywhere today.

Don’t take the lift today and take the stairs as often as possible. Walk if possible.

Pay attention to your posture – straight or stooped?

How do you feel when you are sitting – can you feel your back?

Do squats, push-ups and pull-ups when you can.

Make a note of it when you think you want to improve the functionality/fitness of your body in certain areas. In which areas?

Recognising unit 12:

Now let’s look at some examples of how it might work…

I stand in front of the mirror and realise that I don’t like my figure and that I don’t want an ‘Aqua-Hoop’ between my chest and thighs when I bend over.

So I now judge my appearance according to my own criteria and define my own criteria for how I want to look. I observe what foods I eat and how much fat and carbohydrates they contain.

Then I start to decide for myself what foods I could eat, which ones I like and which ones contain less fat and carbohydrates.

And from that, I put together my own programme, which I develop myself, according to my taste, and which I stick to myself.

I judge the functionality of my body myself.

Are my back and abdominal muscles strong enough to support my spine, or will my back problems get worse?
Is my blood pressure okay?
Do I often have headaches?
Do I suffer from tension, etc.?

Then I ask myself: what kind of physical activity do I enjoy?

Once I have noted this down, I observe my own biorhythm.

At what times of the day am I physically most capable?
Am I a morning person or an evening person?
I now put together my own individual programme from all these facts that apply to me personally.

Someone has created a programme to increase the functionality of his body through more physical activity. This programme also includes regular jogging.

He finds his own running speed at which he feels comfortable and which is also the right one to increase his strength and endurance.
Now he runs past his neighbour’s garden, and the neighbour stands outside watching him run. For a moment, our runner feels motivated to run faster to impress his neighbour. However, since he alone can take responsibility for his individual programme, he maintains his pace and runs past his neighbour, albeit quite slowly.
And suddenly he realises that he is not afraid of looking ridiculous because he is trotting along so slowly. Instead, our runner experiences the feeling of how nice it is to train his body all by himself and on his own responsibility. He is not disturbed by his neighbour’s smile because he has the good feeling that he has taken responsibility for himself and can feel how good it is for his body.

Those who smoke a lot notice that they are no longer feeling well.

So they decide that they want to smoke less or not at all. They find out what options are available to help them with nicotine withdrawal. They put together their own individual programme and set their own personal goals.

Without pressure from outside, only with the power of their self-generated motivation, cigarette consumption decreases and they feel better and better as a result.

Exercise 12:

1. Write down three things you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.

2. Answer these questions from the recognition department:

Are my back and abdominal muscles strong enough to support my spine, or are my back problems getting worse?

Do I suffer from tension, etc.?
Is my blood pressure okay?
Do I often have headaches?
What kind of exercise do I enjoy?

After I have noted this down, I observe my own biorhythm.

At what times of the day am I physically most productive?
Am I a morning person or an evening person?

Use this to develop an initial small personal programme that you think you can implement over the next seven days. At the beginning, it should only be small changes.

3. Then do the following exercise to determine for yourself whether you want to change your eating habits.

List your favourite foods and add a plus if the food is mostly good for your body and a minus if the food is mostly bad for your body. Create a list from your notes that you can hang up in the kitchen.

And then you could also think about possible consequences and write them down here – however, only if you want to.

Recognising unit 13:

WHAT DOES THE TOPIC OF RESPONSIBILITY MEAN FOR OUR INNER HARMONY?

Looking at the topic of responsibility in such a way that our inner harmony is guaranteed means, first and foremost, enjoying the awareness of self-control of my actions.

Self-control means that I have an overview of the situation, that I can correctly assess the situation and my position in that situation, and that I can act in every situation in a way that meets my needs.

It is always important to observe:

• Is a situation destroying me?

• Is a situation blocking me?

• Is a situation helping me?

And then to control it so that I don’t suffer from the situation, but shape my situation the way I want it. It is immensely important, as part of taking responsibility for yourself, to explore your own strengths and possibilities and to be careful not to fall into a black-and-white or either-or pattern.

To achieve or maintain inner harmony, you should always try to consider several options. Thinking in black and white is dangerous because it can lead to feeling desperate and like a ‘lost cause’ if the positive option doesn’t work out.

When taking responsibility, it is essential to

analyse situations

analyse your needs

develop multiple strategies that allow me to meet my needs according to my situation

Then I am always balanced, calm, relaxed – in other words, in a state of inner harmony. The key is self-determination. Every moment in which we feel controlled by external forces leads to negative feelings that affect our overall balance. The resulting inner restlessness causes us to lose strength, radiance and composure because we are no longer in balance.

To ensure inner harmony, it is of the utmost importance to always maintain balance in all things. This means that I am able to combine opposing impulses. If I can do that, I will be a happy person who has a positive influence on everyone around me. Taking responsibility is therefore not only important for the mind and body, for personality and success.

Taking responsibility for yourself is also immensely important for your satisfaction, your inner harmony.

Exercise 13:

1.) Write down three things you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.

2.) Write down the following difficult situations you are in or face and analyse the situations – also write down:

Is this situation controlled only by you?
Is this situation mainly controlled by you?
Is this situation controlled by you without influence? And if this is the case, by whom?

And then work out these questions:

§ What are your needs in each situation?
§ Would you consider it important to control these situations alone?

What would you do if you could control the situations alone?

How can you act now? What strategies can you think of?

Allow yourself enough time for this, 2 to 3 days.

Recognising unit 14:

Let’s take a look at what can go wrong if the principle of responsibility is not observed in such a way as to ensure inner balance:

Unfortunately, it happens all too often (usually after so-called motivational events) that someone decides to take responsibility for themselves immediately – and feels worse and worse instead of better.

Why?

Well, from this point on, our ‘highly motivated’ person has very specific ideas about what ‘success’ should look like. And if something doesn’t go as planned in the self-help book, it’s considered a failure, confirmation that ‘the material for success’ is not there. Because everyone is responsible for themselves, and if something doesn’t work out, it’s their own fault. So with each ‘failed attempt,’ our person falls one step deeper into a pit of self-doubt, mistrust, and fear of failure.

The realisation that they had to take responsibility for themselves did more harm than good.

Why?

Because the person was highly motivated without understanding the context. Without knowing that there is never just black or white, success or failure – but that all steps of positive development serve a purpose if I take responsibility for them and draw my conclusions from them in order to do even better in the next step.

There is no ‘either you make it immediately or you are a failure’. There are always several possibilities and several development steps are always required.

If you know this and take responsibility for all your actions as you ‘move forward’, you will find the inner balance and harmony that are so important for personal satisfaction and professional success.

However, if you expose yourself to the nonsensical pressure of achieving immediate victory or defeat, you may feel helpless and at the mercy of others if you do not achieve your goal on the first attempt. You feel powerless, helpless, at the mercy of fate, at the mercy of the people around you and also at the mercy of your inner emotions and needs. And you feel that your strength is diminishing more and more.

Those who feel at the mercy of others have less and less strength because they are more and more afraid. Fear grows and ‘fear eats away at the soul’; fear is an energy guzzler.

We can no longer use our strength constructively, but it is consumed internally. You feel powerless, listless, and sometimes this escalates into a feeling of hopelessness and despair.

Exercise 14:

1. Write down three things that you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.

2. Then write down three goals that you have not achieved, but where you were able to learn a lot of important things in these situations and where what you learned was very helpful.

Intermediate test 2:

I should consciously take responsibility for my thoughts.

You cannot consciously think ‘right’.

Only by making decisions can you actively determine your personal path.

What others determine is crucial.

Taking personal responsibility is immensely important for inner harmony.

Answer:

Correct

False

Irrelevant

Recognising unit 15:

How can I apply the knowledge of my personal responsibility in such a way that my inner harmony is guaranteed?

1. The most important thing when faced with a challenge is self-reflection.

This means calming down and looking at your own situation from the outside, giving yourself a very sober analysis of the situation. What is the problem? And write it down exactly (everything you write down comes from within and thus becomes visible and tangible).

2. The second thing you should do when faced with a challenge is to ask yourself: what are my options?

You should also write down these options and then see which of the options is easiest for me in the current situation and which of the options is most favourable for me at the moment. And this option is implemented.

3. If it works, the problem is solved. If it doesn’t work, I take the next strategy and that goes on until either the problem is solved or I feel that the problem cannot be solved with my current means at the moment: I get out of the situation.

This means that I can overcome this challenge to the extent that I refrain from it – until further notice, until I feel able to do so again.
People who proceed in this way gain more experience, more realism, more certainty with every step, with every strategy they try out. They learn to act and sometimes they also learn to deal with the resistance of other people and situations, and thus learn a completely new behaviour.

4. People who act in this way develop a much larger repertoire than before. At the same time, inner peace, harmony and positive charisma grow more and more.

A small example from practice: A doctor came to me who always felt helpless. She always did everything for others and felt exploited. She learned to defend herself and to assert her own needs. She learned these strategies step by step and gained a sense of security, strength and peace that spread to others over time.

5. If you apply this strategy, you will receive more respect from others because your charisma will increase immensely.

We are more likely to take responsibility if we like someone or something.
If we love flowers, we like to take care of them; if we love pets, we like to take responsibility for them; and if we love ourselves, we also like to take responsibility for ourselves. So be aware that you are valuable, lovable and very special.

6. If you like and love yourself, you will also like to take responsibility for yourself.

Exercise 15:

1. Write down three things you liked best about your work and/or your workplace.

2. How are you getting on with your own little programme for more physical well-being?

Compare your programme set out in Exercise 12 again. If you are not satisfied with how you are implementing it, adjust it and start again for 7 days to implement this programme. For example, stick a post-it note in your bathroom as a ‘morning reminder’.

3. Write down a goal that you would like to achieve in the next three months.

And then work out at least five different ways to achieve this goal yourself. You will feel it: the more strategies you have up your sleeve, the more secure you will be. And the greater your inner harmony.

How have you liked the NADEUM ANNUAL COACHING – Social Skills Training so far:

At the end of this module, please answer the following questions…

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2 = very good

3 = good

4 = not so good

5 = not at all

The following statements are true:

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so far?

Congratulations

You have completed the LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY. Well done!!!

THE LAW OF LEARNING your next exercise This is your second exercise. Read it carefully. If you have any questions, please call your coach ‘Andreas Andiel’ on the WhatsApp number +43 660 7621873.

Great, now you have successfully completed this exercise and internalised another step of the 12 laws. With each law, you will become more self-confident, think more sustainably and in a solution-oriented way. Each step will enable you to take the initiative and make conscious decisions in the future. Because who, if not you, determines your path.

By touching your mouse on the following button, you will reach the next exercise “No. 02 – The Law of Learning –“

22. March 2025